Healthy decision making in teens

In this Parenting Unplugged episode, Heather Treat, PsyD, and Kayla Heiler, LCSW talk about how the teen brain develops and why that development shapes risk taking and decision making. They explain the brain structures that drive emotion, reward and impulse control so parents can better understand what is happening beneath the surface when a teen acts on impulse or seeks out intense experiences.

Heather and Kayla also describe how everyday factors such as sleep, stress, social media and peer relationships interact with the developing brain. When you know what your teen’s brain is working on during these years, it becomes easier to respond with curiosity instead of criticism and to coach them toward safer choices.

Helping your teen build healthy decision habits

The episode outlines practical ways parents can support healthier decision making at home. A few key strategies include:

• Being a calm, consistent role model, including how you manage your own emotions and stress
• Using reflective listening so your teen feels heard rather than judged
• Waiting to problem solve until emotions are lower and everyone can think more clearly
• Allowing room for safe mistakes, then focusing on what your teen can try differently next time
• Setting clear, proportionate consequences that are tied to specific behaviors

Heather and Kayla remind parents that you do not need to have all the answers. Showing up, listening without judgment and making small, consistent changes in how you respond can help your teen practice healthier choices over time.